Thursday, November 20, 2014

Does belief limits experience?

Do not believe the Truth... ;-)


1. The mental act, condition, or habit of placing trust or confidence in another.
2. Mental acceptance of and conviction in the truth, principle, proposition, idea, actuality, or validity of something.
3. Something believed or accepted as true, especially a particular tenet or a body of tenets accepted by a group of persons.
4. Religious faith.

Let me get this clear, there is nothing wrong with belief or believing. In fact, it's part of who we are as human beings. Believing, like conceptualizing and imagining, is a potent implement in our arsenal of cognitive tools. However, neither believing nor conceptualizing nor imagining nor any of the other implements in our arsenal of cognitive tools can cause experiencing  who we are, even though all of them are essential for a human life to function and work.

So, does belief limits experience? When you believe that something is possible, wouldn't you think that it is possible? And when you experience something, wouldn't you think that it is real?
But here's the thing, when you experience something, you want to make it mean something. Even when you're reading this essay, you want to make it mean something. Well, there you go...

We try to make everything mean something.

We even try to figure out formulae for living successfully. But the truth about it is, there is no truth. The truth believed is a lie.

You don't believe in a screwdriver. If you need one, you pick one up and you use it. And if it breaks you get another one.

Back to business. Does believe limits experience? To keep it simple, I'm going to distinguish experience from believe. To make this distinction I need to be clear about what it isn't about. It isn't about to be right, or to be good. Nor this isn't about to be true. To be sure, it's a good idea to distinguish that which you experience to be right, good, and true from that which you believe to be right, good, and true. It's actually a great distinction to make. It's just not what this conversation is about.

Do not believe anything you hear in here!

Why?  Because my point of view is that there is no truth, which is also a belief. Truth is an experience and should never be believed. So you have to know the difference. You have to be able to tell them apart. You have to be willing to separate that which you experience from that which you believe. Just take a minute and a deep breath, because when you start noticing the difference, you also will notice for having them glommed together in the past. And that had a huge impact on your life and on others' lives.

Because your truth is different from mine, and that is WONDERFUL. The reason why there is conflict and war is because people start believing their truth...

And when you start believing it, you start living it... And when you start living it, it becomes your reality, your view, your world... 

And by the time when you see the world around you as real, you kind of forget that it started with an experience.  

Your experience!

But that is really hard to realize when you are on top of your world.

Friday, April 4, 2014

Context is Everything!

It's not about what you see. It's about the space in which you see. What you see is meaningless without context.

So how can you continue to see the world as real, if the Self that is determine it to be real, is intangible?

Friday, January 10, 2014

Kelly McGonigal: How to make stress your friend

If you are not transformed yet, then watch this inspiring talk of Kelly McGonigal. She shares in a very distinct and scientific way her view about the Transformation philosophy. Thank you Kelly.

Thursday, January 9, 2014

Thank You, 7836 Visitors in 2013!

Hello Great People,

Thank you for all your visits last year. The numbers are amazing, and it means nothing and it feels great!

Let 2014 be your year of Inspiration, Courage, Love and Fulfillment.

Enjoy the party!

ps: A total of 7836 unique visitors, Unfortunately the results show only the top ten. ;-)

Thursday, October 31, 2013

Fear 2

Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. We are telling ourselves a story. Do not misunderstand me, danger is very real. But fear is a choice.

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Thursday, September 12, 2013

The Sky Is Not the Limit

Transformation is a contextual shift in awareness - being - of yourself as the source of your life, rather than a shift in result. 

In the realm of Transformation we are able to create new possibilities in ways of being. After we distinguished what was working from what wasn't working, we are able to let go of the things/thoughts/feelings/emotions/habits that don't serve us anymore. To create space for a new way of being. In the realm of Transformation anything is possible. I mean that quite literally. When I talk about possibilities I don't mean the 'maybe, someday but not now possibility'. What I mean is that anything you want in a way of being is possible, right here - right NOW.

But here's the thing, when we are talking about 'anything is possible' we like to use phrases like; "The sky's the limit" or "thinking outside the box".

Photo Courtesy Of Remon van der Zwaag

Well the problem with these phrases is that it all depends on perspective. Because when you are a skydiver the sky is not the limit but the ground is. And if you use a box as a metaphor for your brain, than you probably know that the inside of your mind is endless and goes on forever inwardly. Out there is no thinking, it all happens inside of your brain.

So in the realm of Transformation these phrases don't make any sense, because they come forth from a preferred believe system, based on what's already happened. These phrases are only useful if you want to refer to the past and thinking about changing things. But Transformation isn't about changing things. Transformation is about creating new things. From scratch, from nothing. And the only way you can have access to that is by allowing yourself to be complete with whatever there is and isn't - especially with what's not going the way it suppose to be. Only when you complete the experience of it, you are able to let it go. That's the access to Transformation. Change is like putting more glaze on a spoiled cake. It may work for a while. Eventually it will taste like crap!

This may sound simple and it is simple. The reason why you have the experience that it isn't simple is because it is human nature to be attached. We like to be attached to things/thoughts/feelings/emotions/habits, even if they don't serve us anymore in the present. We find it very hard to let go. Because we are afraid of the emptiness, the nothingness. We rather stick to the past, then diving into an unknown future. Well that's fun! Everything stays the same.

I'm not saying there's something wrong about it, but it doesn't make any difference. And if that is what you want, you have to make a choice!

So how do you want to do it, the hard way or your way?

If you choose the hard way be prepared for endless battles against all the things, thoughts, feelings, emotions and circumstances you already know and you already have been through, but are not working well for you. But hey, you know them, so it may look as the easy way.

Now if you choose your way be prepared for loving yourself in every aspect. With everything you have and everything you don't have. If you choose your way fear doesn't rule you. Neither do you suppress or ignore fear, just let it be - except some common sense when you're facing a running hippo towards you (or another life threatening situation). If you choose your way you must maintain your connection to your ground of being in the midst of any circumstances. From this place, regardless of your circumstances, you can move on in your life with integrity, dignity, clarity and grace. There is no reason to defend, resist, or control if your true desire is to maintain a healthy connection with yourself and the circumstance you are being with.  
That's your way! It's about you and nobody or nothing else. But there's a pitfall here: Believing the sky's the limit.

Transformation is the clearing for you to experience Life based on creativity rather than on change, to experience Life based on choice rather than on coercion, to experience Life based on what's possible for being in the future rather than based on what's already happened. Ultimately, Life is life.

In the natural world transformation is fully present. We know that our ancestors lived in the sea. And that we humans have the same number of genes as mice and roundworms, about 23000. Did you know that a water flea, Daphnia Pulex, is the winner for largest number of genes in any animal known so far with 31000! Anyway, transformation takes place everywhere. But the idea that we are able to transform our thoughts, feelings, emotions and the way we experience Life is relatively new. Look at us, humans are the only specie busy with what other humans think. In the natural world you need to run or to kill to survive. In our civilized world we don't 'need' to survive, but we don't use our intelligence to end war, instead we defend war. So on a biological level we transformed a lot, but on an ontological level, on the level of being, we don't transform at the same rate. Why, I mean why not? What is stopping you? The sky is not the limit but you are!


Thursday, August 1, 2013


If you don't want to,
You don't have to,
If you do want to,
You don't have to,
But you could,
Because you can,
And if you can,
And you want to,
You probably will.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013


Other people's grass seeming greener is no new concept, but in today's image crafting world, other people's grass looks like a glorious meadow. The truth is that everyone else is just as indecisive, self-doubting, and frustrated as you are, and if you just do your thing, by being you, you'll never have any reason to envy others.

And stop thinking that you're special. You are whole and complete just the way you are!

Just to be clear, happiness is not a condition, it's a choice!

Monday, July 1, 2013

Let Go

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Quote by Annemieke Jonas.

Saturday, February 23, 2013

Saturday, January 12, 2013

Oblique Course

One oblique course in life is there's something to get. The search for meaning is the perfect puzzle.

We are completely run by the machinery of our lives. And the machinery wants to get something. It's been ground into us from an early age this all means something, and the way to live a full life is to find meaning. The problem with that is it's we who made up meaning in the first place. Then we forgot we did that, and pretty soon it starts to look like Life itself has essential meaning.

What a way to live!

We are so infused by it, we can't distinguish it anymore. Like Wile E. Coyote who's been fooled by his own traps. He wants Road Runner, we want to grasp life. There's nothing to get, life is life!


You see, life doesn't mean anything, and it doesn't mean anything that it doesn't mean anything. The shock of this revelation comes not from the awareness on whatever we've invested in our personal and intensely private search for meaning. The shock of it comes from the realization of how much time we've wasted on the pointlessness of the search.

As soon as we realize the meaningless of life itself, we can distinguish the meaning we make up from 'nothing to get' as the foundation from which to live a life of choice, instead of the machinery.

So now it is up to you what to choose! Or not, then you will have a 'Oh NO!' moment.


Enjoy your day! 

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